We tend to think pain is a problem. In our collective belief, pain is a disease we must eradicate, find a cure for. Pain is undoubtedly uncomfortable. Those who live with pain on a chronic and consistent basis will develop an entirely different relationship beyond uncomfortable, often experiencing depression, becoming identified with their pain,…
Read moreThe Wheel of Fortune
I’ve pulled the Wheel of Fortune twice this week and so I thought today is a good day to break it down. Fate. Luck. Destiny. When we like the results, this is what we call it. Misfortune. Bad luck. Curse. When we don’t like the results, this is what we call it….
Read moreTantrums and Honest Communication
I love watching a good tantrum. The younger the child, the more authentic (we tend to start to use our tantrums to manipulate our parents as we get older). There is something so pure about not yet knowing that you don’t have permission from society to fully express yourself, in the moment. Am…
Read moreThe Subtle Art of Manipulation
How do you like to manipulate people? Today I thought I’d write about some of my personal favourite ways. If you think I’m joking, I most certainly am not! And if you think that you are “above” the subtle art of manipulation, think again – we all do it. If that ruffled your feathers a…
Read moreWhen Helping Is Not Helpful
We love to be helpful. From a very young age we are taught that helping makes us “good” people. Whether from a religious context or just simple kindergarden “we help each other” dogma, we learn that our value comes from how pleasant and “helpful” we are to others. While this may seem rather…
Read moreHooks, Manipulation, and Clear Boundaries
I want to talk about a dream I had last night. It was particularly powerful because it was a perfect example of my own deep healing and evolution in action. In the dream I was in conversation with a man I didn’t know. He was a stranger. And in our conversation and in…
Read moreThe Illusion of Grief
“Deal with what’s presently real; also deal with what you believe to be real” from my journal this morning Just because something is an illusion, doesn’t make the loss any less painful. In fact, the death of illusion can be even more difficult to process than the physical thing. Today’s card is the 9…
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