Safety Security Home

I don’t think I’ve ever really talked about this publicly but in early 2020 I decided to disengage from almost all contact with my mom.   At present, July 13th 2022, I realize it’s been exactly 2 years since the last time we exchanged emails privately and since Christmas of 2019 since the last time…

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Mourning My Future Self

The last year and a half have been a sort of unravelling so to speak. The illuminations that have revealed themselves – my truth – have been so starkly honest.   I am eternally grateful that I have the capacity and the self compassion for myself to be able to witness and digest Truth without…

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The Practice of Being Human in Intimate Relationship

From today’s journal entry …   For context, I was contemplating my particular flavour of how I avoid intimacy. We all have different strategies, and a few years ago through deep inquiry, real life practice, and adventures in relationship experimentation, I discovered that my particular flavour is a kind of fog.   Keep things vague….

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Can You Love Her, and Not Her Potential

Her, him, they, your own damn self – it doesn’t really matter who.   If you, like me have the blessing and curse of seeing the potential in others, then you may also fall into the trap of falling in love with who they could be rather than who they really are.   It’s ubiquitous…

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Pain Doesn’t Need Fixing

We tend to think pain is a problem. In our collective belief, pain is a disease we must eradicate, find a cure for.   Pain is undoubtedly uncomfortable. Those who live with pain on a chronic and consistent basis will develop an entirely different relationship beyond uncomfortable, often experiencing depression, becoming identified with their pain,…

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The Wheel of Fortune

I’ve pulled the Wheel of Fortune twice this week and so I thought today is a good day to break it down.   Fate. Luck. Destiny.   When we like the results, this is what we call it.   Misfortune. Bad luck. Curse.   When we don’t like the results, this is what we call it….

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Tantrums and Honest Communication

I love watching a good tantrum.   The younger the child, the more authentic (we tend to start to use our tantrums to manipulate our parents as we get older). There is something so pure about not yet knowing that you don’t have permission from society to fully express yourself, in the moment.   Am…

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The Subtle Art of Manipulation

How do you like to manipulate people?   Today I thought I’d write about some of my personal favourite ways. If you think I’m joking, I most certainly am not! And if you think that you are “above” the subtle art of manipulation, think again – we all do it.   If that ruffled your feathers a…

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When Helping Is Not Helpful

We love to be helpful.   From a very young age we are taught that helping makes us “good” people. Whether from a religious context or just simple kindergarden “we help each other” dogma, we learn that our value comes from how pleasant and “helpful” we are to others.   While this may seem rather…

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