I love watching a good tantrum. The younger the child, the more authentic (we tend to start to use our tantrums to manipulate our parents as we get older). There is something so pure about not yet knowing that you don’t have permission from society to fully express yourself, in the moment. Am…
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Lately I’ve been called to talk about nervous system range and capacity. The other day I even started a video series on the topic. But today I wanted to write about something that’s often called nervous system “load”. It’s also often called “stress” or “stressors”. Now, I think it’s important to distinguish and understand…
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How do you like to manipulate people? Today I thought I’d write about some of my personal favourite ways. If you think I’m joking, I most certainly am not! And if you think that you are “above” the subtle art of manipulation, think again – we all do it. If that ruffled your feathers a…
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We love to be helpful. From a very young age we are taught that helping makes us “good” people. Whether from a religious context or just simple kindergarden “we help each other” dogma, we learn that our value comes from how pleasant and “helpful” we are to others. While this may seem rather…
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I want to talk about a dream I had last night. It was particularly powerful because it was a perfect example of my own deep healing and evolution in action. In the dream I was in conversation with a man I didn’t know. He was a stranger. And in our conversation and in…
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It took me a really long time to be honest about this within myself. I judge people. You see, most of us don’t like to admit that we judge people. We’ve been taught that it makes us fundamentally “bad”, flawed, or even worse “un-evolved” humans, and so we deny deny deny. So what happens when…
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I used to think I had way more masculine energy than feminine energy. I was the no label, jeans and t-shirt wearing, mountain climbing, adventurous outdoor chick. I was definitely not a girly girl. Even growing up in a pretty liberal, hippy, idealist community where everything goes, I still absorbed these cultural norms we…
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I wanted to talk about something I see a lot i the self development world and is often totally misconstrued, and that’s risk taking. More specifically the relationship between risk taking and growth. You’ve heard it many, many, (many), times before. “Life begins outside of your comfort zone” “Great things never came from comfort…
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We are under the illusion that we live in an equal society. This is a gross understatement and rather dangerous illusion. By “we” I mean the educated Western world. We believe that in this post-feminist era, here in the year 2022, we are somehow above our biology, our neurology, our history. We are not. In…
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Today I wanted to write about my personal experience riding the thin line between being in connection, and checking out of the world for a while. I wanted to talk about the difference between unplugging and how it’s both an act of self care and self protection. The Hermit. I am an introvert. This…
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