Her, him, they, your own damn self – it doesn’t really matter who. If you, like me have the blessing and curse of seeing the potential in others, then you may also fall into the trap of falling in love with who they could be rather than who they really are. It’s ubiquitous…
Read moreThe Subtleties of Self Protection
I wanted to share about a dream I had recently. I was reconnecting with an old and very dear friend of mine. As we hugged, I could sense the layers upon layers of hardness that her body, and her being had developed around her. She was struggling with relationship, with deeper connection, with intimacy….
Read moreTantrums and Honest Communication
I love watching a good tantrum. The younger the child, the more authentic (we tend to start to use our tantrums to manipulate our parents as we get older). There is something so pure about not yet knowing that you don’t have permission from society to fully express yourself, in the moment. Am…
Read moreThe Subtle Art of Manipulation
How do you like to manipulate people? Today I thought I’d write about some of my personal favourite ways. If you think I’m joking, I most certainly am not! And if you think that you are “above” the subtle art of manipulation, think again – we all do it. If that ruffled your feathers a…
Read moreWhen Helping Is Not Helpful
We love to be helpful. From a very young age we are taught that helping makes us “good” people. Whether from a religious context or just simple kindergarden “we help each other” dogma, we learn that our value comes from how pleasant and “helpful” we are to others. While this may seem rather…
Read moreHooks, Manipulation, and Clear Boundaries
I want to talk about a dream I had last night. It was particularly powerful because it was a perfect example of my own deep healing and evolution in action. In the dream I was in conversation with a man I didn’t know. He was a stranger. And in our conversation and in…
Read moreI Have Something to Say About Growth Mindset
I wanted to talk about something I see a lot i the self development world and is often totally misconstrued, and that’s risk taking. More specifically the relationship between risk taking and growth. You’ve heard it many, many, (many), times before. “Life begins outside of your comfort zone” “Great things never came from comfort…
Read moreMacho In Drag
We are under the illusion that we live in an equal society. This is a gross understatement and rather dangerous illusion. By “we” I mean the educated Western world. We believe that in this post-feminist era, here in the year 2022, we are somehow above our biology, our neurology, our history. We are not. In…
Read moreThe Hermit In Relationship
Today I wanted to write about my personal experience riding the thin line between being in connection, and checking out of the world for a while. I wanted to talk about the difference between unplugging and how it’s both an act of self care and self protection. The Hermit. I am an introvert. This…
Read moreProtection, Clarity, and Boundaries: Wolf-dog
This morning I pulled the King of Pentacles. Well really, he flew out of the deck and onto the table. Two things struck me immediately and I wanted to explore here one of those things in particular – the wolf-dog. The King sits in this warm vibrancy of security and accomplishment. He is…
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