Flesh and Blood

My womb is shedding. I am writing this under a New Moon in Cancer, June 28th (well now, technically June 29th), 2022. Yesterday I experienced wildly painful period cramps, nausea, the works. I put my hands on my body and I asked it “How do you want to be held right now?” Laying face down,…

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A Father’s Day Message

This is my dad.   I never really got to know him. I was 3 when his spirit decided it was time to disengage from this world.   This past Sunday was Father’s Day and I realized that I have a lot more questions about what this concept of “father” is than I do reference…

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The Practice of Being Human in Intimate Relationship

From today’s journal entry …   For context, I was contemplating my particular flavour of how I avoid intimacy. We all have different strategies, and a few years ago through deep inquiry, real life practice, and adventures in relationship experimentation, I discovered that my particular flavour is a kind of fog.   Keep things vague….

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Pain Doesn’t Need Fixing

We tend to think pain is a problem. In our collective belief, pain is a disease we must eradicate, find a cure for.   Pain is undoubtedly uncomfortable. Those who live with pain on a chronic and consistent basis will develop an entirely different relationship beyond uncomfortable, often experiencing depression, becoming identified with their pain,…

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Why Self Improvement Isn’t

Self Improvement. Or is it?   There has been something really getting under my skin about the self improvement, teaching, and coaching industry for a long time – a really long time. There is just something that just felt off – something I couldn’t quite put my finger on. Then last year, in early 2021, it…

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How I Deal With My Own Programming

I want to peel back the curtains and reveal something to you today, dear reader.   These are the conversations I have with myself on a daily, hourly, moment to moment basis.   I want to pop open the lid so you can see inside. Not because I’ve found some kind of revolutionary way of…

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The Myth of The Strong Independent Woman

I used to think I had way more masculine energy than feminine energy.   I was the no label, jeans and t-shirt wearing, mountain climbing, adventurous outdoor chick. I was definitely not a girly girl. Even growing up in a pretty liberal, hippy, idealist community where everything goes, I still absorbed these cultural norms we…

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I Have Something to Say About Growth Mindset

I wanted to talk about something I see a lot i the self development world and is often totally misconstrued, and that’s risk taking. More specifically the relationship between risk taking and growth.   You’ve heard it many, many, (many), times before. “Life begins outside of your comfort zone” “Great things never came from comfort…

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Macho In Drag

We are under the illusion that we live in an equal society. This is a gross understatement and rather dangerous illusion. By “we” I mean the educated Western world. We believe that in this post-feminist era, here in the year 2022, we are somehow above our biology, our neurology, our history. We are not. In…

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An Ode to The Tower

Yesterday I was chatting with my friend Naomi about my past experience with all of the past Tower moments in my life – how I usually embrace and accept them. I hate them just as much as anyone else, but I also accept them – this is what is happening right now. Ok. There is…

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