It took me a really long time to be honest about this within myself. I judge people. You see, most of us don’t like to admit that we judge people. We’ve been taught that it makes us fundamentally “bad”, flawed, or even worse “un-evolved” humans, and so we deny deny deny. So what happens when…
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I used to think I had way more masculine energy than feminine energy. I was the no label, jeans and t-shirt wearing, mountain climbing, adventurous outdoor chick. I was definitely not a girly girl. Even growing up in a pretty liberal, hippy, idealist community where everything goes, I still absorbed these cultural norms we…
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I wanted to talk about something I see a lot i the self development world and is often totally misconstrued, and that’s risk taking. More specifically the relationship between risk taking and growth. You’ve heard it many, many, (many), times before. “Life begins outside of your comfort zone” “Great things never came from comfort…
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We are under the illusion that we live in an equal society. This is a gross understatement and rather dangerous illusion. By “we” I mean the educated Western world. We believe that in this post-feminist era, here in the year 2022, we are somehow above our biology, our neurology, our history. We are not. In…
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Today I wanted to write about my personal experience riding the thin line between being in connection, and checking out of the world for a while. I wanted to talk about the difference between unplugging and how it’s both an act of self care and self protection. The Hermit. I am an introvert. This…
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This morning I pulled the King of Pentacles. Well really, he flew out of the deck and onto the table. Two things struck me immediately and I wanted to explore here one of those things in particular – the wolf-dog. The King sits in this warm vibrancy of security and accomplishment. He is…
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One of the most important things I’ve learned about relationships over the past couple of years is making agreements. We make agreements whether we are conscious of it or not. Most of the time, we are totally oblivious that we are making them at the time and then we often feel victimized and helpless…
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I have anxiety. Most people don’t really know this about me. They perceive me as a generally outgoing, extroverted, adventurous woman. They see me as youthful, playful, and fearless. And while I am many of those things (except extroverted, I am 100% an introvert) I can assure you, I am also human. I…
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I told her not to come. My best friend and sister really – I had told her not to come. It just wasn’t the right time, vacations, busiest tourist time, and worse, I had only 2 nights available in my own house because it was the busiest 2 weeks of the year and I…
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Yesterday I took the day off. I needed it. Time change, waking up too early to go surfing, the afternoon was a full on in and out of siesta experience. Contrary to what I’d like to believe about myself, I’m a pusher. I like to push myself. In my twenties, this expressed itself…
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